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How to find God

samuel kee —  October 21, 2012 — Leave a comment

I recently spent the evening with the chaplain of the Chicago Bears, Ray McElroy.  He told this autobiographical story.  There were two boys, I think ages 6 and 8, who were the trouble of the town.  If anything went wrong in the neighborhood, everyone knew who must have done it: one (or both) of these two boys.  They got into a ton of trouble, to the point that their mom was exasperated.  She didn’t know what to do.  So, she decided to bring them to church so that the senior pastor could talk some sense into them.

She started with the six year old.  There the little guy was, sitting the senior pastor’s office, all by himself.  The senior pastor, who was a big guy, met eyes with this little trouble maker.  The pastor, with cringed brow and an ominous voice, said to the boy, “Son, where is God?”  The boy was so afraid that he didn’t answer.  The pastor straightened up in his chair, as the boy slunk lower in his, and repeated, “Young man, where is God?”  The six year old was really afraid now.  He was eyeing the door.  The senior pastor stood up on his feet behind his desk and said forcefully to the boy, “I said, Where is God?”

At this, the boy jumped out of his chair, scurried out of the office, ran out of the church, headed down the street, into his home, up the stairs, and plunged into his bedroom closet.  He shut the closet door.  His older brother heard him run in, so he went to his brother’s closet and knocked.  He asked, “Tell me, what happened?  What did he do to you?”  The six year old cracked open the closet door and fearfully whispered, “Oh, brother, we really did it now!  We are in a load of trouble!  God is missing, and they think we did it!”

Where is God?  Funny stories aside, God’s people often ask the same question.  In the book of 1 Samuel, God’s people were reeling with the same question and confusion.  God didn’t make sense to them.  Can you relate?  In 1 Samuel 4, Israel fought against their enemy, the Philistines, and lost 4,000 men.  Israel concludes that the loss was due to the fact that they did not bring the ark of the Lord into battle.  So, they procured the ark of the Lord and carted it into battle with them.  Maybe having “God” with them will guarantee a victory.  However, they ended up losing 30,000 men in battle!  On top of that, they lost the ark of the Lord, too!

When the ark was in “exile” with the Philistines, it began to do amazing things on its own.  We learn in 1 Samuel 5 that the ark defeated the Philistines and their god, Dagon (whom he decapitated and mutilated).  All by itself, without the help of the army of Israel, the ark of the Lord defeated the Philistines, doing what Israel could not do.  The Philistines were so overwhelmed by the unaided power of the ark, that they sent it away on an ox cart, back to Israel (1 Samuel 6).  Upon arrival, the Israelites were so overjoyed to see the ark, that they rushed out to greet it.  However, 70 of them—God’s chosen people—looked directly at the ark, and God struck them dead on the spot.  Really, that’s what God did.

Where is God?  After reading these chapters, we’re to understand that God is wherever he wants to be, doing whatever he wants to be doing.  God cannot be manipulated by us.  He is not under our control, to cart out into our battles, whenever we feel like it.  He cannot be tamed or domesticated by us.  He gives life and can take away life, whenever he feels like it.  He does not owe us any explanations, much like the king does not owe the smallest mouse in the poorest peasant’s home an explanation for his decisions in his kingdom.  We are made in God’s image and God will not be remade into humankind’s image.

Once we understand this, we are prepared for the jaw-dropping reality described in 1 Samuel 7.  Though God cannot be controlled by us and will never be controlled by us, he does put himself within our reach.  He is just a turn away.

The quickest way between two points is a straight line.  The quickest way between you and God is 180 degrees.

The uncontrollable, omnipotent God of the Bible, has put himself within our reach.  We just need to turn around to find him.  This is the great biblical doctrine of repentance.  In order to find God, turn away from the course that leads away from God, and turn to God.  To repent is to turn away from sin and to turn toward God.

Repentance is a form of grace, for through repentance, we fall into the embrace of a God who can save us.  As Samuel said to the Israelites, “If you are returning to the Lord with all your heart, then put away the foreign gods and the Ashtaroth from among you and direct your heart to the Lord and serve him only, and he will deliver you out of the hand of the Philistines” (1 Samuel 7:3).

C. S. Lewis wrote (Mere Christianity) that if a man is on a road that’s taking him in the wrong direction, then the way to move forward is to turn around and go the other way, so that he can get on the right road.  The most progressive person is the one who turns around in order to move ahead.  The quicker you can turn around, the more forward you’ll go.

Where is God?  Turn around and you’ll find him.  To move you to repentance, consider the suffering love of Christ.  Few can stand unmoved when they learn about the One who loved us until his last breath.  Turn around and fall into his loving arms.

© Samuel Kee, 2012

How to follow Jesus

samuel kee —  September 1, 2012 — Leave a comment

The 1997 movie Gattaca is about two brothers, one who is superior to the other, in every way.  The point of this sci-fi movie is to muse over the implications of genetic discrimination in the future.  One of the brothers, Vincent, is genetically inferior.  In fact, he has a heart defect.  His brother, Anton, is superior.  Growing up, they used to have a contest to see who could swim out farthest into the ocean, before turning back.  As you would expect, the genetically superior Anton always won.  However, after years of training, Vincent wants to swim against him one last time.  Vincent and Anton head out into the water, and, guess who wins?  This time, Vincent wins!

In utter disbelief, Anton shouts out, “Vincent! How are you doing this, Vincent? How have you done any of this? We have to go back!”  Vincent replies, “It’s too late for that, we’re closer to the other side.”  Anton says, “What other side? Do you want to drown us both?”  Then Vincent says, “You want to know how I did it? This is how I did it, Anton.  I never saved anything for the swim back.”

There are those in life who try to hold on and try to maintain control, even while taking great risks.  But there are others who have discovered a taste for the other side, something that is basically unreachable.  Yet they swim anyway.

When Jesus calls people to follow him, he doesn’t expect us to save any for the way back.  He is looking for those who are willing to place their hopes and dreams on the other shore, on the other side.  There is no such thing as a Christian who returns each night to the shore from which he left, just to go out again the next day.  That’s insanity.  Jesus wants to take you deeper than that, out where there’s nothing but longing.

Don’t save any for the way back; then you’ll actually be getting somewhere.

© Samuel Kee, 2012

Problem Solving 101

samuel kee —  August 22, 2012 — Leave a comment

When I worked on a 33 bed Alzheimer’s unit, I used to lead daily Bible studies.  The residents loved to hear the Bible read to them, especially their favorite passages.  One of the passages I read to them every week was Isaiah 40—the whole, long chapter.  They loved it.  They especially loved the last two verses, which are probably familiar to you:

Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.  (Isaiah 40:30-31).

They really liked the part about youths growing weary and fainting.  They smiled with delight at the thought of the renewing their strength and flying like eagles.

But let me point out the three verses before the famous last two verses, for they have some instruction that you might need to hear right now.  I assume you’re like me, in that you make mistakes.  You run into problems, things don’t turn out the way you want them to.  When that happens to me, I usually react in standard, predictable ways.  I might look to see what I can do to fix it.  I also might look to see who might be blamed.  Most of the time, I blame myself.  Then I’ll blame others or try to get them to fix the problem.  Sometimes I’ll get hopeless or apathetic.  Bottom line: my first reaction to problems is to soothe them with human solutions.

The people to whom Isaiah the prophet was talking, were plunged into problems.  Theirs was a national crisis; their nation had been conquered by an enemy and most of their people were forced into exile.  What were they to do to fix this problem?  God tells them in verse 26, “Lift up your eyes on high and see.”  Then in verse 27, “Have you not known?  Have you not heard?  The Lord is the everlasting god, the Creator of the ends of the earth.  He does not grow faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable.”  God tells his people to look to him first.  He will not tire of us looking to him for help.  He understands everything we’re going through and he has the ability to help us.

What if we changed our strategy for dealing with problems?  What if we looked to God, first, before we looked to ourselves or others to solve our problems?  What if we looked to the only one known as the “everlasting God?”

But there’s another part to our new strategy that I need to point out.  In verse 29, we read, “He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength.”  This means that when we look to God for help, he gives us a gift!  Our God is a big giver, extravagant.  He loves to lavish gifts on us, whether we recognize him or not.  He gives power to the faint and might to the weak.  And he’ll give these gifts, and more, to you, too.

Let me summarize our new strategy.  First, look to God for help with your problems.  Second, look for him to give you a gift.

I know that seems incredibly simplistic, but is it any worse than your present strategy?  Really, is the way we typically handle our problems much better?  We either tear ourselves apart or tear another apart.  We either get down on ourselves or down on those around us, often those we care about.  So what do we have to lose?

The next time you have a problem, conflict, etc., try this simple strategy.  Look to God first, immediately.  Ask God to provide you with a solution; don’t make anyone else, including yourself, bear this burden.

Then you will soar like an eagle.

© Samuel Kee, 2012

How To Find Joy

samuel kee —  June 24, 2012 — 1 Comment

Psalm 118 contains an intoxicating verse, which will give great joy to those who drink it deeply into their heart.  “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalm 118:24).  There are seven things that I want to point out.

First, we learn that God has a job: God is the Maker.  He is the only one who made this day.  This day would not have spun into existence were it not for him.  Neither you nor I invented, manufactured, initiated, or fastened together this day.  God made it and it’s here only because of his will.  He wanted this day here and that’s why it’s here.  Were it not for God, then this day would have never happened.  “This is the day that the Lord has made.”  He is the visionary, architect, and builder of all life, especially today.

Second, we learn that we have a job.  If God’s job is to make this day, then our job is simple (though not always easy): to react.  Actually, the verse specifies not only what we are to do, but also how we are to do it.  We are to react with joy and gladness.  To be happy, in other words, is our job.  “Let us rejoice and be glad in it.”  You and I both know that we always seek happiness, all the time.  We never veer from this path.  According to this verse, we never ought to stray from this course, either.  Our job is to rejoice and be glad.

Third, we learn the pattern of grace before works.  Most of us have this backward, getting us in all sorts of spiritual and existential trouble.  Our default line of thought is: works before grace.  We think that we have to do good deeds in order to get good things.  So it is with everything else in our lives.  We work really hard, we get good pay.  We study really hard, we get good grades.  We practice really hard, we make the team.  We make all of the sales, we get more recognition.  Then we carry over this line of thought to our spiritual lives—and here’s where it really gets dangerous!  We do enough good stuff in order to tip the balances, and God will let us in.  We do good deeds and God will have favor on us.  But that is not the pattern that this verse gives us.  In Psalm 118:24, grace comes before works.  God gives us the “day” first.  God initiates first, God provides first, and God acts first.  Only then are we called to “work,” rejoicing in what he has given by his grace.   Whenever this pattern of grace-before-works is upset in your life, disaster will follow.  We need to live by God’s pattern.  He loves first and only then do we react to his love.

Fourth, you already have something to rejoice about today, so don’t miss it.  “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”  There is something special about this day that God has waiting for you.  I know that life is tough, as we’re surrounded by constant tears.  I’ve walked through the valley, too, many times.  But I also know that even in the valley, there is something to rejoice about.  God is not overwhelmed by the trials.  If he were, then the trials would be “God.”  But my God is bigger than all trials and can redeem even the wickedest day.  There is something about this day that is worth rejoicing over; and if we only focus on the trials then we’ll never see the triumphs.  Go confidently into this day, knowing that there is something to rejoice and be glad about.  Hasn’t evil done enough damage in this world?  Why then should we also allow it to take away the joy that God has for us in today?   I say, let us not feed the fire of sorrow, so that we might fan the flame of joy.

Fifth, we do it together.  This was very profound for me to see.  The verse does not say, “Let me rejoice and be glad in it.”  Rather, it says, “Let us rejoice and be glad in it.”  In other words, it’s easier to rejoice with others than it is by yourself.  Listen, it is very helpful to depend on others in your pursuit of daily joy.  Having joy by yourself is good, but it pales in comparison to sharing joy with another.  As C. S. Lewis observed, sharing our joys with others actually completes our experience of joy.  That’s why we share good books or movies or restaurants with friends.  When your faith falters, you can depend on their faith.  Two are stronger than one, in this fight for joy.  If you’re having trouble finding something about this day to rejoice over, then go find someone else to rejoice with.  Having a joyful life is more like a potluck, where everyone brings something fresh to the feast, and less like a microwave dinner, where you eat alone, merely warming up some frozen thing from the past.

Sixth, this verse is not only the plan for your life today, but also for the rest of your life.  “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”  This verse is a microcosm of the whole thing!  This is the pattern for today—and for forever!  God’s pattern does not shift.  He is our Maker today and forever.  We are to recognize him and have joy in him today and forever.  The whole of your life is to fit this remarkable pattern that God has established.  In other words, this is also your life strategy for tomorrow, the next year, and the next decade after that.  You will never grow too sophisticated for this life strategy.

Seventh, therefore, if you can’t find joy today, then you’ll never find it the rest of your life.  All the ingredients for true joy are present today.  “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”  If you’re waiting for something “good” to come true, then you’re seeking an inferior joy.  If you’re waiting for something “bad” to come untrue, then you’re seeking an inferior joy.  Don’t hear me wrong, we must strive to rid life of evil and there’s nothing wrong with looking forward to the various celebrations in life.  However, these are not the source of joy and if we look only to them, then we will be crushed.  If we look only to them, then we will fail to look to God.  The great secret of this verse is that it gives us the roadmap to joy.  Unfaltering and eternal joy is found only in God.  God is the source of lasting joy.  The source of joy is not contingent, but constant.  Joy does not depend on how things turn out, but on God, the one who gives and retrieves each day.  Look around you; joy is lurking near you today.  If you can’t see it, then you may never see it.  God, have mercy on us; help us not to be entranced by the episodes and evils that steal our eyes from you.

© Samuel Kee, 2012

There’s a big A-word behind this question and all questions like it.  Do you know what that A-word is?  ASSUMPTION!  It’s an outstanding question; we all are searching for forgiveness, especially when we blatantly blow it.  However, the big assumption behind this question is this: I was once pure, but now I’m not, so how can I get pure again?  Did you catch the assumption?  The person assumed that he/she was once pure.  This just isn’t an assumption, it’s a false assumption, which we will need to clear up first in order to answer the question.

Here, let me clear up the false assumption: you were never once pure.  Scripture teaches us that we were all born impure.  From the moment you were conceived in your mamma’s belly, you were tainted.  You were born a cute, cuddly sinner—a rebel against God.  Here’s how King David, the “man after God’s heart,” clears up our assumption, “Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me.” (Psalm 51:5).  Or let’s let Jeremiah take a crack at it, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9).  Or, let’s hear from Saint Paul, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23).  Or, again, “None is righteous, no, not one; no one understands; no one seeks for God.  All have turned aside; together they have become worthless; no one does good, not even one.” (Romans 3:10-12).  I remember taking a private, Greek reading course with Dr. Don Carson in his office.  The first passage he had me learn was Romans 3.  Not only did I better understand my moral depravity after this, but also my intellectual depravity!

After reading all of these Scriptures, I hope you begin to realize that you never started off pure.  Your soul was sinful, deceitful, sick, fallen, unrighteous, and worthless, to name a few.  I know what you’re thinking, I should write Hallmark cards.  Nevertheless, I’d bet you a six-pack (of Cream Soda) and a pizza that the way these verses describe humanity is exactly how you feel.

Worthless, fallen, deceitful, sick, sinful, etc.  Is this how you feel?  Welcome to earth, for that’s how it feels to be a sinner.  Sinners, because of their sin, feel worthless.  Sinners, because of their sin, feel sick.  You get the idea?

Why do I belabor this point?  Unless we clear up this false assumption, then you’ll be under the delusion that there’s something that you can do to cleanse your own conscience.  But there’s not anything that you can do to cleanse your own conscience and make the guilt go away.  If you try, you’ll wind up being like Lady MacBeth, constantly scrubbing your hands to get rid of all the guilty spots, but never being able to do so.  “Out damn spot!”  The book of Hebrews makes it clear that human acts, even if they are religious ones, like offering a bull or goat on the altar, can never cleanse the conscience (see Hebrews 9:13-14 and 10:1-22).

With the assumption cleared up, we’re able to see that there’s nothing that you can do to make the guilt and shame go away.

Your help must come from outside of yourself.  The church Reformer, Martin Luther, called this “alien righteousness.”  We need a righteousness that comes from outside of us, that is alien to us.  We are totally depraved, as discussed above, and unless we have someone else’s righteousness land on our lives, then we’ll forever remain how we are.  You’ll never get rid of your faults, sin, shame, sickness, and wickedness, on your own.

Before I move on, I also have to say that just because we’re totally sinful, does not mean that we’re as bad as we possibly could be.  To say so, would be untrue.  I am not as bad as I could be.  I could be a lot worse, and so could you.  Though we are born into sin, we do not do every sin possible.  We all eat from the sin-buffet, but we do not eat all of the food at the sin-buffet, all at once.

So how do I become pure again?  There are two steps.  First, repent and turn to Jesus.  And second, repent and turn to Jesus.

I’ll take the first one first.  The first step in becoming pure is to turn to an irrevocable source of purity.  God gave his Son Jesus Christ to us in order to forgive us our sins and make us pure.  “But now the righteousness of God has been manifested apart from the law, although the Law and the Prophets bear witness to it—the righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for all who believe.” (Romans 3:21-22).  God gives the most precious gift to those who trust in Jesus: righteousness.  Think of righteousness as “right-ness with a smile.”  Along with righteousness come a clear conscience and purity.  When God looks at those who are hiding beneath the blood of Jesus, he sees nothing but pure souls.  Jesus is our source of alien righteousness.

Jesus justifies us, in other words.  Justify basically means to “righteousify” or “purify.”  We are instantaneously cleansed and called “not guilty.”  Jesus absorbed all of your sin on the cross.  Your notice of charges, which Roman soldiers nailed above the heads of all crucified criminals, was placed above Jesus’ head.  Jesus died beneath your notice of charges.  Every sexual sin you’ve ever committed was charged to Jesus.  He died for them all, absorbing all the punishment that they deserved.

Jesus was punished for all of your sins and there remains no punishment for your sins.  Want to know how I know?  The resurrection is the proof!  After Jesus got done absorbing all of the punishment for your sins and bearing the complete wrath of God toward unrighteousness, he was free to go.  Jesus only remained in death so long as there were sins to keep him there.  But after he consumed all of the sins that the world had to offer, he didn’t need to remain in death anymore; he was free to rise.  Thus, the resurrection is standing proof that there’s nothing more to pay for the sins of the world.  They are “paid in full.”  As Paul says in Romans 4:25, Jesus “was delivered up for our trespasses and raised for our justification.”

If he were not raised, then we would have no proof that all the penalties had been paid; since he has been raised, we have confidence that there is nothing more to pay for our sins, either by Jesus or by us.  Do you comprehend the sweetness of that?  Jesus has been fully punished for your sins and there is nothing left for you to pay.  The wrath of God struck down and landed on Jesus, not you.  You are free to go.  You, who were once dead, have been made alive.

“And you, who were dead in trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses, by canceling the record of debt [notice of charges] that stood against us with its legal demands.  This he set aside, nailing it to the cross.” (Colossians 2:13-14).

The second step is like the first, repent and turn to Jesus.  You need to repent every day of your life.  Every day of your life, you need to turn from self and turn to Savior.  You need to turn away from sin and turn toward God.  You must live beneath the banner of the blood, trusting in Jesus for your joy.

Just like God will justify you through Jesus, so will he sanctify you through Jesus.  To sanctify means to “make holy.”  While justification is instantaneous, sanctification is a lifelong process.  God continues to work on us for the rest of our lives, making us holier and holier.  Here’s God’s wish for us, as we struggle with sin: “Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.  He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it.” (1 Thessalonians 5:23-24).

Did you notice who will sanctify us and make us blameless?  That’s right, God will!  God will continue to make you pure in spirit, in soul, and in body, as the verse says.  God will keep you blameless, in other words.  When you are face to face with God after you die, you will still be blameless.  God will look at you, despite all of your sins, and he will say, “You are blameless!”  Why?  Because God first looked at his Son and said, “I blame you, Jesus, for all of their sin!”

Keep turning to God, relying on the gift of Jesus.  When you sin, turn to God.  He will keep you blameless, trust him.  Remember, you have no righteousness of your own to enter into the equation.  It all comes from Jesus.

Don’t sit and sulk, but stand and seek.  “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9).  Confess your sins to God, and he WILL forgive you.  There is no forgiveness outside of his.  Keep turning to God.  The measure of your righteousness is not determined by the good works you are able to do, but the bad works you are able to repent of.

Don’t forget about verse ten, “If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.” (1 John 1:10).  Don’t assume you once were pure, you were not.  Instead, turn to God through Jesus Christ and he will make you pure.

© Samuel Kee, 2012

How to Christmas Carol

samuel kee —  December 19, 2011 — 4 Comments

Love God. Sing loud.

Last night about 30 senior high students and adults took to the streets of Glenview, IL in order to pursue the original flash mob.  That’s right, we went Christmas caroling.  We practiced.  We were organized.  We had our sleigh bells, trumpet, and, oh yes, our kazoos.  Here’s how it went down.

First, someone would ring the doorbell.  At that moment, our trumpeter (who goes by Louis, but we call him Josh) would sound a beautiful C on his horn, at which time the Voices would begin to sing, Joy to the World.  Hopefully, and not all the time, as it’s important to exercise Great Patience when Christmas caroling, the homeowner would open the door.  Occasionally, the homeowner would hide behind the door, just cracking it open a little, to appear respectful.  And, occasionally, the homeowner would open the door more than just a little, in which case we would happily transition to Deck the Halls.  After singing the first verse of Deck the Halls, the Army Lieutenant in our group would bark out the command, “Second Verse!”  We all knew what to do next: With great stealth, we would unsheathe our plastic kazoos and put them to our lips (the plastic would keep them from sticking to our lips in the cold).  With the tenacity of a million buzzing mosquitoes, we would play the notoriously unquotable second verse of Deck the Halls with our kazoos, adding various musical flourishes at the end to give this instrumental version a grand finale.  For the record, my kazoo was yellow.

At this point, three things would typically happen.  Either the homeowner would break down in laughter, shut the door outright, or show genuine interest/sympathy.  When the latter happened, we would quickly transition to a somber version of Silent Night.  And, I must admit, our version of Silent Night was breathtaking.

A few of the homeowners offered us money, which we did NOT take.  We told them that we were doing this for the sheer joy of it.  In retrospect, nevertheless, I wonder if they were offering us money to leave.  But, I don’t think so.

Who were these unflappable modern day troubadours?  They were the students and leaders of North Suburban Church, representing Rush Youth Group.  Each one of them has a heart full of joy and the passion to change the world, one song at a time.

If you’ve never gone Christmas caroling before, I’ll let you know when we’re going next year, and maybe you could join us.  Until then, love God and sing loud.

© Samuel Kee, 2011

Porn Free

samuel kee —  August 19, 2011 — 1 Comment

If you only focus on Technique, then your life will collapse.

As a pastor, it is a privilege and honor for me to hear courageous stories from guys who admit they struggle with porn.  It’s not easy to own up to this subtle, yet deadly, addiction.  And when they get to the point of confessing their sins, the next question is always the same: how do I stop?

Some guys, of course, don’t want to stop.  Actually, lurking deep down in our intentions, even most guys who go so far as to admit it’s a problem, really don’t want to stop.  Others, however, truly are sick of the cycle and ready for relief.  What do I say to them?

If you turn on Christian radio or consult religious books on the subject, inevitably and unfortunately, you’ll hear the same sort of message about how to become porn-free.  The message that is hawked has to do with strategy.  Namely, try such-and-such technique in your fight against porn; methodology abounds as the issue is attacked from a “how to” vantage point.

I’ve read or heard boatloads of such methods.  “Bounce” your eyes away from an alluring image; don’t put your computer in your room; don’t have internet on your phone; don’t be alone with a source of temptation; don’t watch certain movies; don’t listen to certain music; get new friends; download accountability software; get an accountability partner; find a hobby; go for a jog, etc.

All of these techniques are very good and helpful, don’t hear me wrongly, but they will fail you if you rely only on them.  I promise.  For your heart, like mine, is black and wicked; and the source of our sin is not outside of us, but inside of us.  And mere technique will not get anywhere near the source of the problem.

A few posts ago, I wrote about Aristotle’s triangle of knowledge.  At the bottom of the triangle is truth; above truth is morality; and above morality is technique.  This is an extremely helpful way forward, and can help the both of us in our struggle against sexual sin.

Here’s why.  Truth is at the foundation; everything rests on Truth.  Truth is “What.”  Because of the “What” we know “Why” some things are right and some things are wrong; that’s Morality.  Once we know “Why” we ought to do some things and not others, we can begin to explore “How” is best to live; that’s Technique.

Technique—How do I live out morality?

Morality—Why are some things right or wrong?

Truth—What is reality?

If you only focus on Technique (How do I live out morality?) then your life will collapse.  There is no Truth beneath it.  When we fail to put Truth into our lives, then we have stunted morals and failing technique.  Technique alone will fail us.  Any approach to help you with porn that only gives you a handful of techniques will fail you.  You and I first need a foundation, which is the Truth.

Therefore, the best way to fight against a porn addiction is to put Truth into your life.  We have to bolster the foundation; only then will our Morality be revived and our Technique be successful.  Without Truth, every crumbles; you’ll never be convinced of good Morality and deep down you’ll care less if know how to do it.

Once we’re convinced of the Truth, Morality and Technique flow naturally.  I believe that with all my heart.

The Truth that I am speaking of is God’s Holy Word, the Bible.  The more Bible we ingest, the stronger our foundation becomes.  It’s not just about reading, but about meditating, memorizing, and feasting.  Scripture is your soul’s food and without it you’ll starve and collapse in a heap on the floor.  And no methodology will be able to revive you.

Our world is filled with those who are selling the latest Technique.  It’s sickening to me, because, in the end, when we sit in the ashes of our failure, shame is heaped upon guilt.  Drunken with failure, we hobble over to the next Technique, only to be knocked to the ground again.  The cycle continues until you finally give up.

You and I have to put God’s Word into our minds and hearts every day.  We have to build-up the Truth in our lives through Bible reading, listening to sermons, attending Bible studies, praying about Scripture, etc.  Do whatever it takes to build your foundation.  Let the Truth adjust your Morality; and let your Morality inspire your Technique.

Sorry to say that this post was not about “Ten Ways To Be Porn Free.”  I don’t want to be that cruel and deceptive to you.  I want to point you to the only wellspring that will work, God’s Holy Word.  Here’s the beautiful thing about God’s Word, which sets it apart from being just another Technique: it is more like acid than water.  In other words, when acid touches something, it affects it.  Intrinsically, acid has changing power.  It’s the same for God’s Word; when it touches something, that something will never be the same.  Even if you don’t see it, trust the process and know that God’s Word is always at work (Isaiah 55:11); for it is “living and active and sharper than any double-edged sword” (Hebrews 4:12).

We are not only saved by grace, but also we are sanctified by grace.  Grace, as Bonhoeffer wrote, will justify both the sin and the sinner.  In other words, God’s grace through Jesus on the cross will not just make you pure “on paper” but also in reality.  His grace will affect your life and change you for the good.  God’s grace will give you a new heart with new desires, as we un-handle our old life and grab hold of the Truth, which is the only way to new life.

© Samuel Kee, 2011